March 30, 2016

in Just life


Comparison is the thief of joy. 

I’ve heard this quote before but when I had to sit down and identify and clarify my WHY for being a Team Beachbody coach, this quote made so much sense to me.

I signed up with Beachbody because I had already been working on my own fitness journey and was helping others on their journeys by participating in and running Biggest Loser-type groups on Facebook. When I found out I could earn money just by helping people, and there were no risks or strings attached, I was in.

Once I became familiar with Beachbody’s philosophy and culture, I was hooked. It wasn’t just about earning extra money; it was so much more. I grew and developed as an individual. And I’ve always been an upbeat, positive person but it’s been amazing to have met – and continue to meet – amazing like-minded people!

Over my five years as a Team Beachbody coach, I’ve heard many others share their WHY. Their reason for signing up, their reason for pushing toward their goals, and the thing that drives them to be better, do more, and try harder.

And I compared myself to them.

I don’t have a rough past, like some coaches. My childhood was pretty great; I haven’t overcome any amazing obstacles; I’m not a survivor of a major health issue.

I don’t have children, like many coaches. I have felt, for years, that I have to explain myself and provide reasons for why my husband and I don’t have kids. I’ve tried making light of it, I’ve tried skirting the issue, I’ve tried giving the honest answer that we simply had decided we didn’t want to have children. It seems like a majority of coaches that I interact with have kids. And BOOM. Kids are such a huge, obvious reason WHY you would want to succeed in a business that has the potential to provide freedom. Freedom in several forms: financial, physical, and time. Setting a positive example of how important it is to incorporate fitness and nutrition into everyday life.

My WHY that I shared with other coaches when we would discuss the business and our goals and hopes, was to replace my husband’s income so he could retire early. He has a physically demanding job and it beats him up. He works hard and deserves to enjoy life.

Despite having come up with my WHY over 4 years ago, I have continued to compare. I have continued to feel like somehow my WHY fell short from what others shared.

While re-visiting my WHY this week and working through things with another coach and friend, I came to realize that my husband and I ARE my WHY. That should be enough. And it IS enough. Especially now, when he’s working in another county and we mostly just see each other on weekends. It sucks. And it’s strong enough of a reason for me to want to work harder and help more people and accomplish my goals.

Comparison is the thief of joy. When you compare yourself to others, you miss what’s right in front of you. You lose sight of what brings you joy by allowing yourself to feel inferior for no good reason.

We are enough. I am enough.

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